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Help for Loving Relationships
Welcome to the place where we courageously discuss the messy and amazing parts of loving relationships. We'll get into complex problems and be inspired by love stories. As a professional counselor for over 25 years, Shane observes what helps and what hurts individuals, marriages, and families. You'll hear from authors and experts as well as everyday heroes who have something to share about strengthening relationships in your community. Get inspired to do hard things as well as find better ways to live, love and parent!
Episodes
70 episodes
Empowering Women in Relationships
What holds women back in relationships? Therapist Anita Sandoval and Shane cover topics includingThe reflex to people please, and how this can be harmful long-termGuilt and cultural expectations that trap women in self-sacr...
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58:18
Impacts of Unresolved Trauma by Shane Adamson
Shane reviews the literature on trauma as well as shares observations from his 30 years as counselor and from his personal work of healing to share some markers that would indicate that you may be struggling with unresolved Trauma1) He r...
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High-achieving Men and Addiction
We know addiction gets in the way of happiness and relationships, but why is recovery so difficult for high-achieving men? Professional coach Roland Cochrun shares his insights and the realization that making real connections (and discovering y...
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Season 4
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Episode 7
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51:05
Healing Generational Trauma & People-Pleasing
What do you do when you didn't receive comfort consistently while growing up? You look for other ways to receive it. That can lead to unhealthy habits that damage relationships even when they give good feelings. Therapist Anita Sandoval & S...
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Season 4
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Episode 8
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53:10
Finding Peace Retreat—My Journey
What is an intensive therapy retreat like? What benefits does it have over doing a therapy workbook or individual counseling? Shane gives his personal experience of the retreat coming up this fall near Lake Texoma that is designed to help peopl...
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Season 4
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Episode 6
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30:11
Swimming through the Blue Trench
One of the scariest scenes in Finding Nemo was when Dory & Merlin swam through the blue trench—being afraid and vulnerable out in the open ocean. Men's coach Bob Smith shares his experiences p...
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Season 4
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Episode 5
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46:07
Balance in Relationship with Self & Others
There are 4 key components to creating balance in relationships, that equilibrium between autonomy and closeness that feels good to both partners, according to psychotherapist David Schnarch:A flexible, solid selfA quiet mi...
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Season 4
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Episode 3
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30:27
Digital Addictions: When screen interfaces replace human faces
What defines problematic screen use? What are the real harms? Whether it’s gaming, social media, or online porn, digital addictions can eat up time, tank productivity, increase anxiety, and hurt what really helps—relationships with loved ones.&...
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Season 4
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Episode 3
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34:25
Empathy & Happiness
How does empathy change the dynamic of big, negative emotions? What is it about emotional intelligence that allows us to bring our best selves to relationships? What is cognitive dissonance and why is it easier to change our thinking about our ...
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Season 4
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Episode 2
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35:37
Happiness Builders and Blockers
2025 is the year to better understand happiness! In this episode Shane shares what research indicates increases happiness as well as what blocks it. You might be surprised! "Happiness does not have to be a grand adventure—it can just come from ...
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Season 4
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Episode 1
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24:28
How Holiday Traditions Strengthen Relationships
They foster connection, create a sense of belonging, and reinforce shared values. Shane shares some of his own family traditions as well as from asking others what traditions were meaningful to them. He reminds the listener...
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Season 3
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Episode 17
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12:24
From Rage to Resilience
Your world was torn apart by the person you loved the most in the world. Maybe you're still in the relationship, maybe not. Maybe you're trying to decide. What you know is that you don't feel yourself, and you're not getting past it.
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Season 3
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Episode 16
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59:14
Feeling Disconnected in Your Marriage?
Feeling burned out at home? Not getting the love and support you need? Does your marriage need some work? Coach Shiloh Minor talks with Shane aboutboundariesself-carebeing more generous with yourself ...
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Season 3
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Episode 15
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46:20
Journey Beyond Betrayal
After the anger, grief, mourning, and loss, is there really hope for a relationship after a betrayal? Kate Conwell gives us a resounding "Yes!" Listen as she & Shane delve into the 3 stages of healing:Safety & stabilization<...
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Season 3
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Episode 14
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37:04
Summer Break & Online Course in the Works!
The podcast will be on break from at least July - Sept. Related to that, I am excited to announce a new online course coming soon: Heroic Healing: A Couples' Guide to Healing from Betrayal/InfidelityThis is my fi...
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Season 3
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Episode 13
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2:21
Self-discovery in Nature, Spirituality, and Relationships
A decade-long journey to heal from PTSD, depression, and addiction took travel writer Brad Wetzler to the Holy Land, India, and the Himalayas. While immersed in nature, spirituality, and relationships with ...
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Season 3
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Episode 12
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32:31
Self as Reflected in Relationships
Have you ever gotten annoyed at someone else, only to later realize it mirrored something in yourself that irritates you? Or noticed a pattern in some relationships that went south? "You take yourself wherever you go," says life coach Deb Blum,...
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Season 3
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Episode 11
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56:20
Reframing Self-Sabotaging Perceptions
Lori Beard focuses on 7 steps of personal development. Today we dive deeper into negative perceptions and how to reframe these so they do not sabotage your life:Lori shares how ...
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Season 3
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Episode 10
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34:13
Leadership and Teamwork
As an executive coach, Jelena Simpson leans heavily on the DISC personality assessment to help leaders understand their strengths and areas for improvement in working with their teams. And connecting with them is crucial, she says, because it k...
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Season 3
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Episode 9
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1:02:22
Personal Transformation
A dedicated mindset transformation coach specializing in trauma and abuse recovery, Shirley Buck draws from her own remarkable journey to help others.As an energy healer, she understands the intricate connection between mind, body, and s...
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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38:02
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Healing Childhood Trauma
Have you ever wondered what going to an intensive 5-day therapy retreat is like? Shane reviews his experience at the Green Shoe Retreat, which focuses on healing the pain from childhood dysfunction in yo...
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Season 3
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Episode 7
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38:13
Mindfulness, Mental Health, and Relationships
Jacob Hess is lead author of The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-day Saints. With Phil Neisser, he wrote You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong, and is a former board member of the National Coal...
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Season 3
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Episode 6
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53:17
Benefits of Gratitude and Journaling
Taking the time to reflect on what you're grateful for and writing down your thoughts both require the ability to detach from the inner dialogues in your brain, and with practice bring a host of therapeutic benefits. Shane details many in this ...
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Season 3
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Episode 5
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