Help for Loving Relationships
Welcome to the place where we courageously discuss the messy and amazing parts of loving relationships. We'll get into complex problems and be inspired by love stories. As a professional counselor for over 25 years, Shane observes what helps and what hurts individuals, marriages, and families. You'll hear from authors and experts as well as everyday heroes who have something to share about strengthening relationships in your community. Get inspired to do hard things as well as find better ways to live, love and parent!
Episodes
62 episodes
Empathy & Happiness
How does empathy change the dynamic of big, negative emotions? What is it about emotional intelligence that allows us to bring our best selves to relationships? What is cognitive dissonance and why is it easier to change our thinking about our ...
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Season 4
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Episode 2
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35:37
Happiness Builders and Blockers
2025 is the year to better understand happiness! In this episode Shane shares what research indicates increases happiness as well as what blocks it. You might be surprised! "Happiness does not have to be a grand adventure—it can just come from ...
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Season 4
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Episode 1
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24:28
How Holiday Traditions Strengthen Relationships
They foster connection, create a sense of belonging, and reinforce shared values. Shane shares some of his own family traditions as well as from asking others what traditions were meaningful to them. He reminds the listener...
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Season 3
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Episode 17
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12:24
From Rage to Resilience
Your world was torn apart by the person you loved the most in the world. Maybe you're still in the relationship, maybe not. Maybe you're trying to decide. What you know is that you don't feel yourself, and you're not getting past it.
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Season 3
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Episode 16
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59:14
Feeling Disconnected in Your Marriage?
Feeling burned out at home? Not getting the love and support you need? Does your marriage need some work? Coach Shiloh Minor talks with Shane aboutboundariesself-carebeing more generous with yourself ...
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Season 3
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Episode 15
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46:20
Journey Beyond Betrayal
After the anger, grief, mourning, and loss, is there really hope for a relationship after a betrayal? Kate Conwell gives us a resounding "Yes!" Listen as she & Shane delve into the 3 stages of healing:Safety & stabilization<...
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Season 3
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Episode 14
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37:04
Summer Break & Online Course in the Works!
The podcast will be on break from at least July - Sept. Related to that, I am excited to announce a new online course coming soon: Heroic Healing: A Couples' Guide to Healing from Betrayal/InfidelityThis is my fi...
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Season 3
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Episode 13
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2:21
Self-discovery in Nature, Spirituality, and Relationships
A decade-long journey to heal from PTSD, depression, and addiction took travel writer Brad Wetzler to the Holy Land, India, and the Himalayas. While immersed in nature, spirituality, and relationships with ...
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Season 3
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Episode 12
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32:31
Self as Reflected in Relationships
Have you ever gotten annoyed at someone else, only to later realize it mirrored something in yourself that irritates you? Or noticed a pattern in some relationships that went south? "You take yourself wherever you go," says life coach Deb Blum,...
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Season 3
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Episode 11
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56:20
Reframing Self-Sabotaging Perceptions
Lori Beard focuses on 7 steps of personal development. Today we dive deeper into negative perceptions and how to reframe these so they do not sabotage your life:Lori shares how ...
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Season 3
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Episode 10
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34:13
Leadership and Teamwork
As an executive coach, Jelena Simpson leans heavily on the DISC personality assessment to help leaders understand their strengths and areas for improvement in working with their teams. And connecting with them is crucial, she says, because it k...
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Season 3
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Episode 9
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1:02:22
Personal Transformation
A dedicated mindset transformation coach specializing in trauma and abuse recovery, Shirley Buck draws from her own remarkable journey to help others.As an energy healer, she understands the intricate connection between mind, body, and s...
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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38:02
Healing Childhood Trauma
Have you ever wondered what going to an intensive 5-day therapy retreat is like? Shane reviews his experience at the Green Shoe Retreat, which focuses on healing the pain from childhood dysfunction in yo...
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Season 3
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Episode 7
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38:13
Mindfulness, Mental Health, and Relationships
Jacob Hess is lead author of The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-day Saints. With Phil Neisser, he wrote You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong, and is a former board member of the National Coal...
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Season 3
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Episode 6
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53:17
Benefits of Gratitude and Journaling
Taking the time to reflect on what you're grateful for and writing down your thoughts both require the ability to detach from the inner dialogues in your brain, and with practice bring a host of therapeutic benefits. Shane details many in this ...
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Season 3
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Episode 5
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24:12
Betrayal Trauma Healing, Part 2
Shane recently completed a training by APSATS (Association of Partner's of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. He shares some best practices for healing betrayal based on this healing. 1. Safety and Stabilization2. R...
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Season 3
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Episode 4
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37:04
5 Stages in Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Guest Heidi Hastings is a sex and marriage researcher, educator, and advocate. She details the 5 stages women go through in trying to heal from a betrayal:Innocence/naiveteCrisisAftermathHealingTr...
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Season 3
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Episode 3
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1:01:53
Music that Heals and Inspires
Kayla started singing along side her father on stage at the young age of 2. Over the years she has brought her music to school assemblies, worship services, and recently recorded her 2nd album entitled, "All Things New." ...
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Season 3
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Episode 2
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33:27
Addiction and Loss
The lawsuit against Meta for allegedly harming teens with their addictive platforms. Opioids. Online porn. Addiction, and the resulting loss, touches us all at some time. Shane talks about the accusations that Facebook & Instag...
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Season 3
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Episode 1
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31:30
Navigating Holidays with Family & 2024 Podcast Preview
Sometimes family dynamics can increase stress during holiday gatherings. Shane offers 7 tips to help you better navigate these reunions and reduce drama. The second half of the podcast Shane gives a sneak preview into episode...
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Season 2
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Episode 18
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21:32
How Faith Strengthens Relationships: Romaree F. Herbert
Romaree's journey in her Jewish faith took a winding road—from feeling disconnected with her Reform upbringing in El Paso to renewed interest while experiencing antisemitism in Germany. She was in college when she decided to go to Israel to att...
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Season 2
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Episode 17
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52:15
How Faith Strengthens Relationships: Almas Muscatwalla
"He created you all from a single soul." How does this tenet from Islamic theology change the way we think about our relationships? A faithful Ismaili Muslim, Almas Muscatwalla explains that it helps to diffuse conflict if we see the other as h...
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Season 2
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Episode 16
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50:00
How Faith Strengthens Our Relationships: the Bujnowskis
Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Aaron & Julie Bujnowski share how insights gained from prayer and personal revelation informed big decisions: Should we move? How should we tackle cancer treatment? &nbs...
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Season 2
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Episode 15
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1:12:56
6 Ways a Betrayer Can Improve Healing
1) Don't lie. How honesty heals2) Have patience with self, spouse, and recovery. (Research shows it's a 1-5 year process)3) Seek help. Involve >3 others in your healing journey4) Improve your distress tolerance. Addiction is real...
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Season 2
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Episode 14
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23:58