Help for Loving Relationships

Balance in Relationship with Self & Others

Shane Adamson Season 4 Episode 3

There are 4 key components to creating balance in relationships, that equilibrium between autonomy and closeness that feels good to both partners, according to psychotherapist David Schnarch:

  1. A flexible, solid self
  2. A quiet mind & calm heart (emotional regulation)
  3. Grounded response (avoid reactivity, seek first to understand the other)
  4. Meaningful endurance (tolerating discomfort for growth)

Shane explains Dr. Schnarch’s research in this 30-minute podcast, and here is the article that inspired today’s episode.