The Gremlins of Hard Emotions and Low Confidence

 Podcaster Carmen Hecox is passionate about helping women navigate midlife with more confidence and purpose. She interviewed Shane about his 3 components of self-confidence, what gets in the way, and how to overcome.  (Not a surprise: This advice works for men and women of every age!) Some nuggets:

• A quiet mind, calm heart, and self-compassion lead to inner peace
• Competence in an area + positive feedback -> increased confidence
• "It's not the wounds of our lives that harm us but the stories we tell ourselves."

1. Challenge the negative beliefs about yourself
2. Connections--to your family, friends, higher power--are all important resources
3. Take a time out when you're flooded emotionally
4. Find an accountability partner/group that challenges you

• "Part of life is sitting through hard emotions and finding more healthy coping."
• How to regulate our "emotional temperature" 

Chapters

• 5:26 How inner peace leads to self confidence
• 10:51 Competence + positive feedback= confidence
• 12:15 Kristin Neff's meditation on self-compassion
• 23:47 The stories we tell ourselves